Reaching out should never put you at risk. A few things to think about, especially if someone you live with, or someone who hurt you, may check your phone, computer, or accounts.
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Look for help on a device only you use
Browsing can be monitored and is impossible to erase completely. A private window helps, but a phone, tablet, or computer that only you can access, or a library or a trusted friend’s device, is safer.
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Know what Quick exit does
The button, or pressing Escape twice, takes you to another website right away. It does not clear your browsing history, so it is a way to leave a page fast, not a way to hide that you were here.
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Think about your phone
Calls and texts can show up on a shared phone bill, a family plan, or a synced account. Consider calling from a phone that only you control, and check whether anyone can see your call history or messages.
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Ask how they will contact you
At the start of a call, ask whether it is safe to leave a voicemail or send a text, and ask what they keep confidential. You can tell an advocate which times and numbers are safe.
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Check what you share
Location sharing, shared cloud photo accounts, and shared calendars can reveal more than you expect. If you are unsure, an advocate can help you look through your settings.
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Make a plan with an advocate
Advocates at the Rape Crisis Center, DAIS, and UNIDOS can help you think through safety planning at your own pace, including where to go, who to tell, and what to keep close.